Former 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days star Stephanie Matto says an unnamed HBO actor paid her $300 (£220) to insult him, then admitted he had a similar arrangement with three other women, including his assistant. Matto says she cut all contact after learning she was not the only woman receiving money from him.
The reality television personality shared the account in a TikTok video that resurfaced in November 2026. She said they met on Tinder while she was living in Los Angeles and began exchanging money and insults after he discovered her profile on a sugar daddy dating website.
Despite the paid arrangement, Matto hoped they would become a couple. She said the revelation about his assistant came only after she asked whether he intended to make her his girlfriend.
From Tinder to a $300 PayPal Transfer
Matto said she was 26 and trying to build an acting career in Los Angeles when she matched with the celebrity. She described him as an actor with a successful HBO series, adding that the character he played was someone she had been obsessed with. She did not name the actor or the programme, although she said the show involved baseball.
Their first date took place at a comedy club where he was performing, and Matto brought a friend along. They went for drinks afterwards, and Matto said she ended up at his house until around 4 am. She thought the evening had gone well, but months passed without him contacting her again.
At the time, Matto said, acting had not worked out and she was earning money as an exotic dancer. When business slowed, she signed up to a website connecting women with potential sugar daddies. Days later, the actor reportedly messaged her to say he had found her profile and began asking if she enjoyed taking money from men.
Matto said she played along because she wanted to see him again. He then asked her to insult him and demand payments through PayPal, prompting her to mention an upcoming car payment. 'I like you, but bills gotta be paid,' she recalled telling him, before he transferred $300 (£220).
Why Did Stephanie Matto Cut Ties With the HBO Actor?
Matto said the arrangement continued for about a year, during which they went on two more dates. She claimed each involved the actor paying her to be mean to him. Despite the unconventional terms, she believed they had developed a genuine connection.
'I don't know why, but in my heart of hearts I thought this man was my soulmate,' Matto said. Eventually, she asked why they were not officially together. According to her account, his answer changed how she saw the relationship.
He allegedly told her he was doing the same thing with three other women. 'One of them is also his assistant that works for him,' Matto recalled. She said she stopped speaking to him immediately and never resumed contact.
TikTok Users Question Matto's 'Awful' Dating Experience
Matto's April 2024 video resurfaced in November 2026, attracting more than two million views and plenty of questions about the mystery HBO actor. While some viewers tried to work out his identity, others struggled to understand why Matto considered the arrangement such a bad experience when he had been paying her bills. One commenter wrote: 'This doesn't sound like an awful experience, this sounds like my dream dating scenario.'
Matto, who made history alongside Erika Owens as part of the first same-sex couple featured on 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days in 2020, has since appeared on 90 Day: The Single Life. She has never publicly named the actor, and her claims about his arrangements with other women remain unverified. Despite cutting him off after discovering he was also paying his assistant, Matto admitted she missed one thing about their relationship: having someone else cover her car payments.
