Farha Khalidi has delivered a blunt rebuke to men who portray themselves as victims of loneliness, claiming that many are instead 'perpetrators of adultery' who use their unhappiness to excuse their behaviour.
The content creator made the remarks during a heated debate with an anti-sex-work advocate on Jubilee Media's Surrounded series, after being accused of contributing to a male mental health crisis through her work on OnlyFans.
Khalidi questioned why men were being portrayed as victims when, in her view, some resented women gaining greater control over their bodies and the ability to make money from adult content. Her comments challenged the argument that women creating sexual content should be held responsible for men's loneliness.
Khalidi Challenges Men Who Claim Loneliness
The exchange took place during an episode titled 1 OF Model vs 20 Anti-Sx Work Advocates (ft Farha Khalidi) | Surrounded*, in which Khalidi defended OnlyFans and women's sexual autonomy against criticism of the adult content industry.
One advocate accused her of worsening social isolation among men, declaring, 'There is a men's mental health crisis. You are contributing to the loneliness.'
The opponent also compared sexual content to an addictive drug, arguing that it could damage consumers' mental health. Khalidi challenged the suggestion that women creating adult content were responsible for men's loneliness, questioning why these men were lonely in the first place.
The advocator then took aim at what she described as the tendency to excuse men's behaviour by blaming dissatisfaction within their marriages or a lack of attention from their wives.
'What I find really grating about these conversations is that these men are not victims of loneliness,' Khalidi said. 'More often than not, they're perpetrators of adultery, right? '
She argued that discussions about unhappy marriages often portrayed men as helpless victims, with explanations such as a 'dead bedroom' or wives supposedly failing to provide enough attention. Khalidi rejected that framing, suggesting that sexual entitlement and personal choices were being overlooked in favour of a more sympathetic narrative.
Her criticism centred on what she saw as a double standard. She argued that men had previously dismissed pornography as purely physical and meaningless when their wives objected, yet some were now invoking loneliness to explain their consumption of adult content.
Farha Khalidi frying anti-sex work advocates: "These men are not victims of loneliness, more often than not they're perpetrators of adultery... Why is it that these men only adopted this language of victimhood after women started wielding control of their own bodies?"
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Are Men Lonely or 'Sore Losers'
Khalidi also questioned why male loneliness had become such a prominent talking point as women gained greater financial independence and made money through platforms such as OnlyFans.
She contrasted the sympathy shown towards male consumers with concerns about exploitation and abuse in the wider pornography industry, questioning why those issues had not prompted the same level of concern from men now describing themselves as lonely.
'Why is it only now they're falling behind because women are advancing past them in college and stuff and in the workforce? ' she asked.
She argued that the language of victimhood had gained traction as women began exercising greater control over their bodies and profiting from their own sexual content. Khalidi also recalled how women who objected to their husbands watching pornography could be dismissed as insecure, while some men now framed their own consumption in terms of emotional deprivation.
Her most pointed challenge came when she questioned whether the men being discussed were genuinely struggling with isolation or resenting women's growing independence.
'Are they actually that lonely, or are they just sore losers?'Khalidi asked. 'I think it's the latter.'
The exchange highlighted the clash between the advocate's argument that adult content contributes to male loneliness and Khalidi's insistence that men should not automatically be treated as victims. Her remarks placed personal responsibility, marital expectations and women's growing financial independence at the heart of the debate over OnlyFans and male loneliness.
